MIRA KIRSHENBAUM

Mira Kirshenbaum has an international reputation as a therapist for individuals, couples, and families. She is co-founder and clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute. A sought-after speaker, Mira is the author of nine award-winning books, some national and international bestsellers. She has appeared many times on the Today Show and has been interviewed by Oprah Winfrey.

The New York Times has just published a story about new research on infidelity. (Click here to see the article.)

I have to say that this article validates what we say in our recent book When Good People Have Affairs.  And you need to know what this new research says.

For example, how often do people cheat on their spouses? How likely is it that you’ll cheat? That your spouse will cheat on you? Read the rest of this entry. »

How are choosing a mate and voting for a President the same?  If you’re in the process of choosing a mate, pay attention.  This could make all the difference for you.  Read the rest of this entry. »

How do you and your spouse handle things when your family finances land on shaky ground? 

Sean and Amy got married about ten years ago.  Sean sells new trucks at a local Chevy dealership.  Amy is the office manager for a real estate firm.  They saved and, with a little help from their family, a couple of years ago they were able to buy their first home.  Amy got pregnant.  All seemed rosy in their world. 

But then their world collapsed.  What happened, and how can you keep your marriage from turning sour when your finances get shaky?  Read the rest of this entry. »

Are you Money Compatible with your partner?  Well, you’d better get compatible, or you might get into big trouble. 

Jennifer fell in love with Michael for all the normal reasons.  He was cute, funny, and sweet, plus he had a nice family and friends.  And it didn’t hurt that he had a good job.  They seemed to be compatible in all the ways that felt important.  All signals pointed to GO. 

Then Real Life took hold.  The love part was easy.  It was daily living that broke them apart.  Here’s how it works, and what you can do about it.  Read the rest of this entry. »

It’s dangerous to think of your spouse as being an alien creature.  Easy, but dangerous.  And now we now know it’s not even true. 

I know this goes against what many of us have been thinking.  But you need to understand this if you want to have a happy marriage.  Read the rest of this entry. »

Wrap your mind around this, if you can: women who try to help men get out of supposedly bad marriages by having affairs with them.  Shocked?  Surprised?  Sadly, I’m neither shocked nor surprised.  I see it happen all the time. 

This may well be what happened to John Edwards, based on a Newsweek piece by Jonathan Darman.  Read the rest of this entry. »

Well, Mike Lupica and Maureen Dowd have had their say. And while they said it well they said nothing – of course nobody likes what John Edwards did Duh. You’d have to be brain dead not to feel that way. So what’s so smart about asserting that he did a bad thing? Maybe that’s why a lot of people are talking about our previous blog. Read the rest of this entry. »

Ken doll in lust?  That’s what New York Times columnist Gail Collins called John Edwards in her op-ed piece today.  Randy, empty, silly, plastic.  A human zero.   But what’s  the truth?  Read the rest of this entry. »

With all the controversy that’s been swirling around my new book, When Good People Have Affairs, you can catch a glimpse of how I really feel in a recent interview I did on the CBS Early Show.

Bottom line. Keep love alive. Marriage is the best way to do it. Check out my Revolution blog for lots of tips about how to do it. Love is too important for us to kid ourselves about.